Character and Values Evaluation

These are questions for you to think about -- and thoughts to consider.
After evaluating how your family is doing, go to Character and Values Activities.


Someone who is trustworthy is dependable, reliable, and faithful. An honest person does not lie, cheat, steal, or take unfair advantage, but is honorable and truthful.

Q1: Do we show our child how important it is to be honest and trustworthy?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

Cooperation is the act of working together toward a common goal where everyone benefits.

"Playing games with agreed upon rules helps children learn to live by rules, establish the delicate balance between competition and cooperation, between fair play and justice, and exploitation and abuse of these for personal gain. It helps them learn to manage the warmth of winning and the hurt of losing; it helps them to believe that there will be another chance to win the next time." -- James P. Comer

Q2: Do we encourage our child to share, cooperate and work well with others?

  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

Good conflict resolution strategies help reduce stress by seeing  the problem in a different light. Many stress busters work because they alter thinking processes. Solve conflicts so everyone wins. Be a peacemaker. Peace is giving up the love of power for the power of love. Peace in the world begins with peace in your heart. Take time for daily reflection and gratitude.

There's a lot you can do to create a peaceful home - and teach your kids to handle conflict constructively. If the only tool a child has is fighting, that will be the child's first and only method of coping with conflict.
Q3: Does my family resolve conflicts and arguments peacefully?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

We show respect by speaking and acting with courtesy. We treat others with dignity and honor the rules of our family, school, and nation. Respect yourself, and others will respect you.

Understanding is using your mind to think clearly, paying careful attention to see the meaning of things. An understanding mind gives you insight and wonderful ideas. An understanding heart gives you empathy and compassion for others. Understanding is the power to think and learn and also to care.
Q4: Do we communicate with each other respectfully? Do I seek to understand the other's point of view, before asking them to understand mine?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

Saving 10% of your earnings is paying yourself for your future needs. Wealth is not measured by what you bought but by what you could buy if you decided to.

Conservation involves our use of all natural resources air, water, land and all life forms, including people. It is a philosophy of living that reflects respect for our life-sustaining environment.
Q5: Are we wise in our purchases and conserving resources?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

Teamwork starts with acknowledging that everyone belongs together and is committed to each other. This is the family unit. Providing an opportunity for learning, trying things out, or accepting defeat is an important role of the family. As a family team, we can help each other get through tough times. Because we have family teamwork, they can balance one person's difficult time with other family member's strengths. While we have differences, we remain "family" which gives us security and support.

Q6: Do we do activities together as a family to bond as a team?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

Good citizens show concern for the success and safety of others. Being a good citizen also includes using non-judgmental language that judgmental language that does not offend or demean. Good citizens do the right thing, especially when it is difficult and when no one is looking. Good citizens take responsibility for their own actions and reflect on how their actions affect the welfare of others.

Q7: Do we encourage our child to be a good citizen and contribute to his or her community (classroom, playgroup,
friend group)?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family

People who are accountable think about long term consequences before they act. They accept responsibility for the consequences of their choices and their associations--not because of payment, force, or fear of punishment, but because they are living a value that gives higher meaning and purpose to life.

Q8: When solving a personal problem, are we able to weigh both the choices and the consequences?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family


Consideration is being thoughtful of other people and their feelings. You consider how your action affects them. You pay careful attention to what others like and don't like, and do things that give them happiness.

 

Q9: Are we able to see past our own needs and consider another person's needs?
  • A possible goal
  • Definitely a Goal for my Family


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